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Service top
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someone who takes the active role in sex but follows the bottom's instructions, focusing on doing what their partner wants
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A service top is a person who takes the active or dominant role in sexual activity but does so with the primary goal of fulfilling the desires and instructions of the receptive partner. The term is most often used in BDSM and kink contexts, where the service top may physically lead the activity but is guided by the bottom's preferences, limits, and requests. This role blends elements of dominance with attentiveness and responsiveness, and it emphasizes mutual satisfaction rather than unilateral control.
Examples
He calls himself a service top; always checking in with his partner.
She enjoys being a service top because it's all about giving.
